we're going to talk about exactly what i did to go from you're a failure you're a single mom
you're a dropout you'll never succeed to this oh my god i'm not a failure i'm starting to get money
so my name is angela welcome to my channel where we talk about lifestyle motherhood
entrepreneurship and everything in between so back in 2015 here i am with a newborn
broke confused no degree no job i'm scared to death i'm anxious and then i go to instagram
And all I'm seeing is my friends getting jobs, graduating, all moving in with their boyfriend, getting engaged, flying out of the country
And I'm thinking, my God, I'm nowhere close to where my dreams should be
I genuinely felt like a failure and my dreams felt unattainable. First, who would hire me without a degree
Second, I didn't even want to go out. I was so depressed. And even when I did want to go out, all I did want to do was just to drink
And thirdly, I was a single mom at 21. Who would marry me
Who would date me? And these were all thoughts that were going through my head at this point when I'm going
and I'm scrolling through. But I changed all that. This is what I did. I stopped comparing myself
I realized that when I say I'm feeling like a failure, it's just a feeling
It's not the truth. The only truth is that I'm comparing myself with somebody else who's doing a lot more
with their life than I am. and I'm thinking I could be doing the same thing that this person is doing and that makes me like
feel like a failure because I'm feeling okay why is my life not like this person's life yet
we forget one thing that people are awarded three things in life resources opportunities and connections now you given all these three things in different proportions So if you going out there to compare yourself
with this other person, you're doing yourself an injustice because you have not been given the same
amount of connections, opportunities, and resources as the other person. And that's what I realized
and I stopped comparing myself. So take for example Ariana Grande. She's 29 years old and
she's worth what 200 million dollars i'm 28 years old and i am not even close to that much money
but here's the thing she started her career at 15 so where was i at 50 years old i was growing up i
wasn't even thinking about money right so the next time that you find yourself comparing yourself to
somebody else i want you to ask yourself two questions one what connections does this person
have that I don't have? Two, what resources do they still have that I don't have? And third
what opportunities have they been given that you haven't been given? When you answer this question
you're probably going to start feeling sorry for yourself. And that's going to take us to the next
point. I stopped feeling sorry for myself. So that will come about, especially if you're the reason
you are where you are in your life. For example, for me, I was given the same opportunities, same
resources, same connections as my friends and I still was feeling behind, I was falling behind
and I felt like a failure because well I wasn't at the place where they were that I should have been
you understand me So for me what I did was I had to start by forgiving myself because first of all I had let down people that had trusted in me and I was feeling really bad about that and I was feeling really bad about the
decision I had made because had it been not me getting a child I would have been in some place
other than where I was right now but then that mentality had to get out of me because I made a
great decision. I didn't think that killing somebody else because of my decision was best so
I decided to keep my child and I think it was the best decision I ever made because it made me the
person that I am today. Now I am able to strategize. I've grown a thick skin. I learned digital marketing
on my own. I have done so many great things because of having a child and that's why it's important
that you don't feel stuck in this point where you're feeling sorry for yourself. You are going
to feel sorry for yourself. I'm not going to lie to you. You're going to feel like shit. So I have
cried i have wailed i have stayed in bed i'm still feeling like a failure i'm feeling sorry for myself
and then my mom came up with this idea and she was like how about you start spending time with
people who motivate you rather than demotivate you you stay with people who are in your predicament
but are still striving to get to where their goals are and i was like aha so i started surrounding
myself with people who had me motivated all the time so when this particular girl told me like
She was a high school dropout and she went for this interview and she got in and it motivated me and now I started changing my mentality like I'm not a failure
I stopped feeling sorry for myself I stopped feeling like this was the end of the world I stopped feeling like hey I so behind in life because now somebody else came up to me and told me hey this thing that you battling with it nothing
You got this. You are not a failure. And because of that, because somebody else believed in me and I allowed myself to be in a situation where I was surrounded by people who are motivating me, that made me now stop psychologically thinking that I was a failure
So now I'm over feeling like a failure. I got a job as a waitress. I'm so excited. Oh my god. Oh my god. I'm not a failure. I'm starting to
get money. After I got a job, I set for myself small little goals that I knew I would achieve
And then once I achieved them, I celebrated those wins like they were major, major goals because that
gave me motivation to now move on to the next level of a goal. You know, like if I got 400 tips
I wanted 500. If I wanted 500, then I got it. I went to 600. Slowly by slowly until I got to where
I was getting a thousand, five thousand, two thousand. And then finally I got an appraisal
for being the best waitress. And it was like, wow, it was such a small goal that I started with
that ended up with such a big goal. And I ended up starting my bakery, starting my blog, being a
Pinterest manager, and then eventually becoming a digital marketing manager and then owning my own
business. It started from a small little goal, just enough to change my mindset and to make sure
that I knew that I was going to be a successful person one day and that I was not going to ever again feel like a failure
I hope this video helped you guys. Please check out my video before this if you stayed out this long